EMDR Therapy
Holding Space
Clinical Psychology Services

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EMDR Therapy
Holding Space
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Your First EMDR Session

What to expect, at your own pace

Starting EMDR therapy can bring up many questions, especially if you’ve never experienced trauma-focused therapy before or if you’re considering EMDR via Telehealth.


All first EMDR sessions at Holding Space are conducted with careful attention to your emotional and nervous system needs.

Your First Session Is Not About “Going Into Trauma”

A common concern about EMDR is the fear that you’ll be asked to immediately revisit painful memories.


Your first EMDR session is not about trauma processing.


Instead, it focuses on:

  • Understanding what brings you to therapy
  • Getting to know how your nervous system responds to stress
  • Exploring your history at a pace that feels manageable
  • Identifying what already helps you cope
  • Establishing emotional safety and trust
  • Getting to know you and your goals
  • Making sure EMDR is the right approach for you


You are always in control of the pace.


If you’d like to understand EMDR more broadly first: What Is EMDR?


For many people, the first few sessions involve preparation and stabilisation rather than active EMDR processing.


You can read more about how EMDR is practised at Holding Space here: EMDR with Us

What happens in the a EMDR session

1. We slow things down


We begin by grounding the session.


This might include:

  • Checking how your body feels arriving into session
  • Orienting to the therapy space
  • If your first session is online, making sure your environment feels private and supportive. Telehealth EMDR works best when your system feels settled in your space.


You can read more about online EMDR here: Online EMDR Therapy


2. We explore what brings you here


Together, we gently explore:

  • What you’re hoping will change
  • Patterns you’ve noticed (emotionally, relationally, physically)
  • What you’ve already tried
  • Any concerns or fears about EMDR


You don’t need a perfect story. We follow what feels most important to you.


3. We map your nervous system and protective parts


Rather than focusing only on symptoms, we look at how your system has learned to survive.


This may include:

  • Protective strategies (e.g. overthinking, shutting down, staying busy)
  • Inner critics or anxious parts
  • Emotional avoidance or overwhelm cycles


These are not problems to remove. They’re adaptive responses we work with, not against. This parts-informed approach is explained more here: EMDR With Us


4. We begin resourcing (when appropriate)


If it feels right, we may begin gentle preparation work, such as:

  • Grounding strategies
  • Imagery or somatic resources
  • Anchors that support emotional regulation
  • Tools you can use between sessions


This is not exposure. It’s about helping your system learn that safety is possible.

What we don’t do in the first EMDR session

  • We don’t push you into memories
  • We don’t rush into processing
  • We don’t override your boundaries
  • We don’t assume readiness


EMDR works best when your nervous system trusts the process.

How Telehealth EMDR is supported in your first session

We pay specific attention to online safety and comfort, including:

  • Discussing your physical setup (lighting, seating, privacy)
  • Choosing bilateral stimulation methods that suit Telehealth
  • Planning for emotional regulation after session
  • Making sure you feel grounded before ending


If you ever feel unsure or overwhelmed, we pause. You’re not alone in the process.

Common questions before a first EMDR session

“What if I get overwhelmed?”
We work preventatively. Safety and regulation come first.


“Do I have to talk about trauma?”
No. You choose what to share and when.


“Can EMDR really work online?”
Yes. Research supports online EMDR when delivered thoughtfully, and many clients prefer the comfort of their own space. You may also find this helpful: Is EMDR Effective?


“What if I’m not ready?”
Readiness is something we build together. You may also find this helpful: Is EMDR Right for Me?

After your first EMDR session

At the end of the session, we usually:

  • Reflect on how the session felt
  • Discuss next steps
  • Decide together whether to continue with EMDR preparation or processing
  • Adjust pacing based on your needs


There is no pressure to commit beyond what feels right.

Is EMDR Right for Me?

Ready to take the next step?

If you’re looking for EMDR therapy that is:

  • Gentle
  • Trauma-informed
  • Parts-aware
  • Delivered online
  • Designed for complex nervous systems


You’re warmly welcome here.

Address: Suite 3, 6 Geils Court, Deakin, ACT 2600

Email: support@hscps.au

Phone: 02 5115 1159

Fax: 02 6188 7368


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Current Availability

Face-to-face (Thur): 2 months' wait

Telehealth (Mon, Wed, Thur): 1-2 weeks' wait